Fighting, as opposed to disagreeing respectfully, indicates hostility, which in most cases is unproductive for resolving a disagreement and is stressful for kids to observe. Regardless of whether your argument included swearing or name-calling, kids pick up on nonverbal cues such as body language and tone of voice. They can tell when their parents are fighting. Read more ›
Should you worry if your 2 and 1/2 year old isn’t talking? At this age, what’s typical is broadly defined. It’s important to keep track of your child’s milestones and seek professional guidance, if appropriate, to make sure delayed speech isn’t a sign of a more serious problem. Read more ›
Written by Vivien Keil, PhD, Neuropsychologist and Clinical Director
This question came in response to “Does He Need ADHD Medication?”
A good plan will vary based on the biggest challenges your child is facing. But even the best plan will only be as effective as its implementation. Read more ›
Written by Glen Elliott, PhD, MD
Chief Psychiatrist and Medical Director
My son was recently diagnosed with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). He’s seven-years-old and often has trouble focusing in class. It seems like he’s getting in trouble every day, either for being disruptive or for distracting the other kids. Read more ›
Your daughter has a large report due next week. She’s distressed and doesn’t know where to begin. You know that she chronically procrastinates. Your son shows you a low score on his multiplication test. He’s discouraged and doesn’t want to study. You don’t want your children to flounder, but how do you help them without taking over their schoolwork? Start by teaching kids strategies that they may not have learned in school. Read more ›
You’re standing at the grocery checkout counter, and your son asks for the M&Ms. You say, “No.” He asks again a little louder and you say, “No.” He starts whining. You repeat, “No.” He starts pulling on your sleeve and screaming at the top of his lungs. Everyone is looking at you.
“Okay, just this once,” you relent, and throw the bag of M&Ms onto the checkout counter. You’re relieved that the embarrassment has stopped, but what have you taught him in the long run? Read more ›
Grandma lovingly says, “Just let her have a cookie!” Uncle Ted disapprovingly says, “You need to let him do things; you’re smothering him.” Aunt Rosa wonders why the kids are allowed to stay up so late, when “everyone” knows children need ten hours of sleep.
Getting together with relatives can be exciting and yet traveling, preparation and criticism about your parenting can cause stress. You and your kids might look forward to a break from homework and schedules, but the loss of routine can also be disruptive.
Taking care of yourself and managing holiday stress can be the biggest gift you give your family. Read more ›
Your six-year-old says she needs a cell phone-just like her friend. Your sixteen-year-old son complains that his car is not as nice as everyone else’s (but shouldn’t he just be happy with a car? Should he even have a car?) Even if you could afford these things, you wonder: Am I just trying to keep up with the Joneses? Does my child need these things? Is my child entitled to these things just because others have them?
Trying to raise a child in Silicon Valley can be tough-not only because of the academic pressures and the current economy, but because of the wide diversity of social pressures. Read more ›
The world watched in horror as images of the devastation that occurred in Japan on March 11, 2011, filled our television screens. Buildings crumbled, smoke filled the air and people’s lives were swept away in an instant. As tsunami warnings were issued across the Bay Area and news of danger from radioactivity emerged, fears mounted that our community too could be in danger.
How are your children affected by stressful or traumatic events? What can you do to minimize their fears? How can you help a child who has experienced a traumatic event? Read more ›