My Child is Falling Behind in School. Now What?

Everything seemed to be going OK. But now your child is struggling to keep up in class and is falling behind. You may wonder, is this just a rough patch? Or is something else going on?

It can be hard to figure it out on your own. Kids aren’t always open to talking about school, especially when things aren’t going well. Here are steps to take if your child is having trouble keeping up at school.

Look for patterns.

You can get valuable information just by observing your child and looking for patterns. Does your child fall apart after school? Does certain homework take a long time to do? If your child seems frustrated by school, use a frustration log to keep track of what you’re seeing.

Know what’s typical at different ages.

Kids, especially young ones, develop at different rates. Some just need longer than others to gain skills. Get to know developmental milestones for your child’s age. And learn about the skills kids need for different grades.

Share what you’re seeing with the teacher.

It’s important for you and your child’s teacher to share information about what you’re each seeing. Maybe you noticed your child struggling with homework for a certain subject. Ask if the teacher is noticing something similar in class.

Talk to your child’s health care provider.

You may not think doctors know much about school challenges. But they often have good insights and suggestions. They can also rule out medical issues like poor eyesight or hearing.

Let your child know it’s OK.

When kids are struggling, it’s not only grades that can drop. Self-esteem can, too. Assure your child that everyone struggles with something, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Get tips for speaking to your child with empathy. And hear from experts on what to do if your child says “I’m dumb.”

Be open about what’s going on.

You need support, too. It helps to talk openly with other people. You may be surprised by how many families have situations similar to yours and can offer support and information.

Consider looking deeper into your child’s difficulties.

Sometimes kids fall behind in school because of something temporary. Other times, there may be something else going on. It’s common for kids to struggle in school because of challenges beyond their control.

Excerpted from “My Child is Falling Behind in School. Now What?” by Understood. Read the full article online on the Understood website.

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